It seemed like the ideal time for change. It really seemed like the best time ever. Like the ONLY time. I felt reckless and free! These two proposing this were normal, sane
human beings…self-supporting, brilliant human beings, happy, and satisfied in their marriage. They could live without this, and were just
checking things out…and they wanted ME! I don’t remember feeling very much pressure,
and I thought I should try something new and non-traditional and a little bit
risky for a change. What did I have to
lose?
Things went blissfully well from the very beginning,
thankfully. My guess is that things don’t
go that well for most people who try this out.
We did not create a list of rules and regulations – we just went
with the flow - we are not swingers. My “I’ll just have a little fun and check
this out and have no expectations” turned quickly into “Holy cow…I think I want
this for a very long time!”
I can only speak for myself, so I will say it seemed like
feelings were hurt all over the place in the beginning. Any one of us (ok, mostly me) could go from
smiling, laughing, and dreaming of the future, to gloomy and pessimistic in no
time flat. We all stuck it out though. We relentlessly discussed whatever issue was trending
– over and over and over again, until we
were all reassured that although things may not be ‘fixed’, we would endure the
fallout together.
I wish I had the magic recipe, really, I do. I wish I could give advice to anyone who was
interested in this kind of undertaking. However,
I feel that that our circumstance, like YOURS, is unique. It will be an new experience for you - distinctive and challenging in its own way. You and your partners will laugh and hurt and
grow from it, and may or may not survive.
Regardless, you will be a stronger person and partner for that. FOREVER. So go take a chance!
Just wanted to give y'all credit. Just found this blog and read all of it. Thanks read the read
ReplyDeleteYou're welcome! Would love to hear about your (or anyone else's) experiences, or feedback on ours. :)
ReplyDelete--Missy